Taking Charge of Her Marriage: A FLR Tale of Spanking, Figging, and Pegging

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Even though I’ve been in a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) that includes F/m discipline (spanking) for over fifteen years and am a big advocate of couples exploring the lifestyle, I’ve always cautioned that it’s not a panacea, especially where big, gnarly individual or relationship issues are concerned. She asked whether I agreed with her reasoning that my communication around the issue had been less than constructive. I reluctantly admitted that I did. The thing to remember is that most wives attempt to punish their husbands somewhat regularly but in less effective, indirect and passive/aggresive ways. Those ways do not usually work well because the husband usually doesn’t understand what is happening and if he does, he resents being manipulated in such weak and cowardly ways. Men respect strength. The woman who punishes her husband in a forthright manner wins his respect and adoration. A woman who attempts to punish her husband in weak and indirect ways earns his disregard and even contempt. Exaggerated feminisation accentuates her submissiveness and it’s a great discipline for her to take care of herself. Much of the female lifestyle has now become ingrained in her day to day life without any need for me to get involved. 2 Demonstrate respect His view was that since he had more overall experience, I should just defer to him. My view was that I had much more experience with the client and better insight into the resolution they were most likely to support.

I did. But did I first take down your pants and your boxers in front of Evie, Marge, and their husbands?” Gary is a fairly good creative writer and would like to start a blog, but is also the type of person who always wants to finish what he does and do things exceedingly well. Between his executive job and his household chores, we don’t feel he would ever have the time necessary to devote to a quality blog. Gary puts Kathy and our marriage first, and therefore has avoided doing that. And, because accountability is often a big part of the drive for men who want this, deep down inside they hope she will be fairly rigorous in her application of the rules. I use hand, crop or wooden spatula. Besides being a necessary discipline I do so enjoy it. There’s something about the feeling of power when spanking a naughty girly husband. 4 Clitty control and feminisationAmazingly important in that the entire male concept of male ego is diffused. For eons males would base their false sense of superiority by defining their organ as the supreme source and indication of superiority and power. In one fell swoop Woman has redefined it as an inferior ‘insignificant imitation of what the Female has. I am blessed with a good, teachable husband, and he has been especially good lately. I hope he keeps his act together tonight. Evelyn and Marge would love to see a repeat of the last time we hosted at our house. They may try to trip him up and precipitate another such scene. He wasted no time getting the paddle and bringing it to the kitchen, where I waited. I took it from him, laid it on the table, and stripped his pants and boxers below his knees. What are some misconceptions you feel people have about the flr dynamic, or your relationship personally?

The Johnsons and the Millers are neighbors in our age group—empty nesters with kids out building families of their own. Marge, Evelyn and I see, or at least talk to, each other almost every day, and the men frequently golf together when the weather allows. The six of us like to gather every week or two, especially in the summer when we can cook and eat outside. It is of course totally your decision whether to spank at all. Try to keep an open mind about it, and find out if it something you could learn to enjoy. Most women who spank find they enjoy the power, the intimacy, the joy of their partner's devotion, and the fun of the act itself. It is a wonderful way to release frustration, allow man to absorb some of your stress for you, and to settle relationship tension. Even if you do not enjoy it, for your good and that of your man, it is still highly recommended to enhance your chastity control and the strength of your FLR. Even limited to less regular maintenance spankings that you don't really enjoy, spanking is so beneficial you should still seriously consider it. Over time, you might find you enjoy it a lot more than you ever imagined you would.

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Sessions are “scenes.” The partners have assigned “roles” — “Domme” and “submissive” and such. More elaborate scenes are sometimes expressed in terms of “role play.” There may be “costumes” involved — leather, chains, corsets . . . that whole bit. Anyway, when I arrived home, there were two suitcases sitting on the floor of the entrance hall, and Susan was telling me, “You’re a nobody, John, and you’ll always be a nobody. Harry is a somebody and he’s on the way up. He’s asked me to go away with him when he takes a new position in Maryland. He’s an executive, and the new job will be a promotion with even higher pay and benefits. He already makes four times the measly salary you bring in.” In addition to the difficulty in physically resisting a stronger male, let’s add in the element of a god figure who supposedly has dictated the whole unequal power dynamic. How consensual can any such arrangement be if one or both parties think it has been dictated by a punitive supernatural power? Female-led disciplinary relationships ARE consensual

Some problems are simply too big to be resolved with a spanking or other form of adult discipline.” While my wife has full authority to decide the “why, when, and where” aspects of the disciplinary side of the relationship, I would describe it as a “soft” FLR with respect to other decision-making. We make most big decisions together, and so far there have been few impasses. My wife’s older sister is the strongest in her clan and though we get along great, now and then I bridle. We were at a vacation house recently when she asseverated that golf is not a sport, it’s an activity. I asked her to go through the list of activities, not sports (cards, crosswords, billiards—anything you can smoke while doing) and generally agreed with her but I said firmly that golf is not an activity, it is a demanding sport and when she perseverated, I said, Why don’t we talk about string theory? She got a blank look. Huh? Says I, Well golf is not something you really know anything about, so we might as well discuss your opinion of string theory.

Real” seems to be a very important adjective for men interested in Female Led disciplinary relationships. We want spankings to be “real” spankings, i.e. painful and hard to take. We need them to arise from real situations, i.e. we want them to be for real offenses. And, we want them imposed in a way that feels like exactly that — like they are being imposed on us, whether we like it or not. We talked for the next couple of hours and agreed I would never spank her again under any circumstances, but if she felt I needed it I would get it. That eventually led to a spanking on the first Saturday night of each month for the past many many years for my “transgressions” in the previous month. If I do something that particularly pisses her off, I can bet on getting one in between. That usually happens about once or twice a year. (OK, the last time was this morning, which is what prompted me to write this) What’s the biggest challenge you face being in an flr relationship, or what do you struggle with the most? Consensual spanking is a fun, beneficial, and intimate activity for a woman to administer to her man, however it is absolutely essential that basic safety is observed.